Skip navigation! Story from Sex. An orgasm can be quite a shock to the system, particularly if you didn't know your body was capable of having one.
But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapistto help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous.
If you took sex ed at school, you probably learned all about pregnancy and STIsbut there's a pretty good chance that your teacher never once uttered the word "orgasm. So let's actually talk about orgasms for a sec. An orgasm is what happens when a person reaches the height of sexual excitement.
For people with a clitoris or a vagina, this is how to achieve an orgasm on your own terms. But we forget that on the screens, especially the small ones pornographyan orgasm is often performative. They can visibly ejaculate. Sex and relationship expert Dr.
Even during an intensely passionate hookup, it's normal for your mind to occasionally wander. Let us know how many of these random thoughts you can check off:. All lies.
The first time you experience an orgasm feels a lot like you just discovered how to climb Mount Everest but, like, without actually hiking the whole thing, and maybe you found a serious shortcut after trying multiple routes too. Here, 28 real women describe what their climax feels like in their own words, but TL;DR: When you know, you just know. The anticipation and buildup ends, so you just feel a smooth release.
I would describe it as something that washes over my entire body. Almost like chills throughout, but my body is heating up instead. The other analogy and more how I feel emotionally, so deeply connected, as if a river of consciousness connects me to him in the present moment. And then, in the exact split second of orgasm, there is no separation.
The female orgasm is generally regarded as a magical, mysterious thing. It relies on all kinds of intriguing bits like the G spot and the clitoris. We asked a bunch of women to describe what exactly an orgasm feels like for them.